Good question! I am new to blogging but not at all new to the topic. In fact it was less than a year into my marriage that the titillating image of my wife sleeping with other men wormed its way deep into my mind and it hasn’t been uprooted since. That was about seven years ago, and it hasn’t always been easy, but I’m excited to cover my journey in more detail soon. For now though, let’s address the question at hand.
The first appearance of “cuckold” was in a poem The Owl and the Nightingale from about 1250; it was also used often by Shakespeare. It referred to a man who’s wife was being unfaithful to him, usually unaware. It was a brand worthy of ridicule. As for the strangeness of the word itself, it stems from the sneaky sexual practices of the cuckoo bird (seriously). In modern terms, the definition has changed to describe a consensual one-sided open relationship in which the wife is free to sleep with other men while her husband remains sexually faithful to her and, this is the key, they both love it that way (credit to Cuckoldress Venus for the succinct definition).
Are you a cuckold? No. My wife and I are happily married but not in a cuckold relationship. At first I wondered what I could possibly have to say here besides exploring my fantasies. However, playing with other men is only a fraction of what makes up cuckolding, just like sex in any relationship. It’s also the day-to-day dynamic of husband and wife that defines their life and love. Their relationship will always be the bedrock on which any other activities stand. To me “cuckold” represents an orientation of service, deference and worship of your wife, desiring for her to experience the most sexual excitement and pleasure possible, even if it isn’t always with you. I feel those things embedded in my sexuality, so while my wife doesn’t cuck me, I embrace all the goodness in what the word stands for.
On a personal note, I’m just a normal guy. I’m a family man first; my wife and kids are my greatest gift and accomplishment and I like to spend as much time with them as I can. When I do have some time to burn, I like to go into the garage, crank up some music and work up a sweat in my gym; go for a run with a podcast or audiobook; plop down with a video game or do a project on the house. I don’t think I seem any different from most guys and until society is widely accepting of non-traditional sexuality, it’s probably for the best to keep it that way.
Why the blog? To be honest, I’ve been inspired. For years my thoughts have been swirling inside my head but when I saw other guys like The Geeky Cuckold or Confident Cuckold really getting after it on their blogs, it gave me the confidence I needed to do it too. I feel that I have come a long way to this point in my life but most of my journey is still ahead of me. My hope for this space is to pay it forward, explore, grow, maybe even titillate.
Why the name? The moniker I go by, Cuckold Kisses, and the shorthand/signature Cuck XO, is directly inspired by Cuckoldress Venus’ hashtag #cuckoldingislove. The reason it means so much to me is because my introduction to cuckolding was through porn, during a low point in my life. My first impression was that the women were mean and indifferent toward their men and I used that porn to numb the pain of my low self-esteem. Once I learned the truth about cucks and their cucktresses, it felt like coming out of the forest.
What I thought I once wanted was bullshit. This is what I really wanted all along. “I’ll be home late, honey. Don’t wait up for me,” with a hug. “He fucked me so hard like only he could, baby. I really, really needed that. I love you,” with a kiss. Love. Firm, tender, grateful, ride-or-die love, secure enough to celebrate as much pleasure as she wants to have. The name Cuckold Kisses reminds me that no matter what form the cuckolding takes, it always comes back to love.
What’s next? Real talk: I struggle with being brave and too embarrassed in my relationship to make my dreams come true, but every time I’ve mustered the courage, whether it’s been about wearing panties, wanting small penis humiliation or even cuckold fantasies, my wife has been nothing but understanding and supportive. Personally, I want to get serious and keep moving forward towards a female-led dynamic focused on her pleasure, because she deserves it (seriously, this woman works harder than anyone I know) and I want it for her. Along the way I’m going to use this blog to engage with the community, document my fears, fantasies, victories, lessons learned and hopefully encourage others and myself along the way. If you’ve made it this far, thanks for reading!